How Do We Come Alongside Someone With a Known Sin Issue?
Why Do So Many Christian Leaders Fail?
Chapter Four: Two Solutions
1. Romans 7:18-20. The root of her reality is that we, as saints, have flesh. Grace never ignores this reality, but is the only resolution to it.
2. James 1:13-15 outlines the process: temptation, carried away, enticed by lust, planting of the seed of sin, birth of sin, equals death. Although sin would be delighted if this always ended in the physical death of the believer, it is satisfied with the death of a relationship, love, and hope. We must be aware of this dynamic.
3. Proverbs 2:11-15.
4. 2 Samuel 11:14-15: “In the morning, David wrote a letter to Joab and sent it by the hand of Uriah. In the letter he wrote, ‘Set Uriah in the forefront of the hardest fighting, and then draw back from him, that he may be struck down and die.’” Obviously, David thought he could deal with the consequences of his sin.
5. Genesis 3:12: “The man said, ‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree and I ate.’”
6. 1 Samuel 13:11-12: “Samuel said, ‘What have you done?’ And Saul said, ‘… I saw that the people were scattering from me and that you did not come within the appointed days … so I forced myself’” (emphasis added).
7. Romans 7:24-25: “Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!” This is the cry of an apostle of Jesus Christ, the founder of many of the churches in the New Testament, the author of much of your New Testament! Paul, the writer of the truths of God’s grace, confesses the reality of his flesh and wrote, “for I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is in my flesh” (Romans 7:18). He wrote, “If by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live” (Romans 8:13). An understanding of grace is always an understanding that our Christian life is not about living as if we do not sin; it is living in the hope and power of the provisions of God when we sin.
8. Romans 7:25: “With my flesh I serve the law of sin.”
9. 2 Samuel 11. With multiple wives and concubines, David wasn’t lacking sexual attention. His “need” for Bathsheba was purely to satisfy his sinful nature.
10. Ephesians 5:8-14: “For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light” (v. 8).
11. Galatians 6:1-2: “Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the Law of Christ” (v. 2). As a reminder, the Law of Christ is to love one another as He has loved us. There is no experiencing love without being vulnerable to those we trust.